The high that you chase will never compare to the permanent joys of happiness, simply because highs are never made to last.
In a millennial state of mind where gratification is so quickly obtained in the instant of a few seconds within the touch of our fingertips, we are progressively becoming conditioned to chase after things that are all about hard and fast, and ignore all things requiring time-consuming patience. Social media gives us the power to see what people from all around the world are doing right this instant, and it becomes an addictive path we chase. It is the ease of access to be able to peep into other people’s lives without the need to physically talk to them or connect with them. We can know worlds about someone without them actually even knowing we exist and this exponentially feeds into our hunger of curiosity and inquisitiveness, ultimately leading to an empty hole inside us when we yearn for the things we see but do not inherit.
We are becoming creatures of seeking instant reward for little payoffs. We want to see monumental results through little effort. Our first world generation has never been hardened by famine or poverty, never felt the grumble of a truly malnourished stomach, never felt the true hours of a day without being entertained by some sort of media or technology. We do not know the real feeling of the reward that comes after a strenuous, back-breaking resilience of a repetitive grind. Because of this, we have a falsified definition of happiness that has been sculpted from our only experience of fleeting highs.
We are then conditioned to pursue highs rather than happiness because that’s all we’ve ever been exposed to – in truth many of us have never been taught what it really takes to pursue the things that make us happy, whatever this may be. The most common things that we seek and try to define happiness with include human connections including family and friends, health and wealth, financial and personal security and inner contentment, amongst many other things. Each of these create a depth of value in our lives that will bring us copious reward and joy, but they each need to be nurtured with the right amount of care, time, patience and effort for it to blossom.
The grandest things in life are the ones that are immeasurable – think of the love you have for the special people in your life or the amount of joy you feel at the highest peak of your life. These are feelings that you can’t put a number to – and these are the feelings that take a prolonged commitment to get to such a stage of rich emotion and feeling. Nothing good in life comes hard and fast, because as quickly as these things come to you, they will disappear right before your eyes, transforming into something else that leaves you high and dry and chasing for something else to replace the result of emptiness and confusion.
So in the midst of all things attainable within a blink of an eye and a stroke of a fingertip’s touch, amidst the chaotic city of long queues and busy lifestyles where we don’t even have to leave your seat to skip the queue for coffee, order food for delivery to your door or reach out to those you don’t have time for a face to face conversation with but want to still remain connected, let this serve as a reminder that all good things in life take an immeasurable amount of time, a painstakingly resilient armour of patience, and an extraordinary vision for achieving the pure things in life that bring joy, laughter and love. Let this be a reminder that all of us fall into the trap of wanting to obtain and achieve things now, and if not now then tomorrow, because any later and any longer is too hard and too out of reach. And let this be a reminder that life is a long and enjoyable marathon, and never a short energetic sprint. Don’t ever chase highs, for their euphoria has a countdown. Don’t ever chase highs, for the highs never last longer than perceived reality. And don’t ever chase highs, for the deadly come down will crush you with each increasing dose.