The thoughts you are feeding your mind is the water you are using to blossom your garden.
We are our own harshest critics and often our own worst enemies. There are days that negative thoughts fill our minds and drown out all attempts to remain in an elevated mood of happiness and positivity. It’s easy and effortless to think of happy thoughts when the key things in your life are going well – but the way we speak to ourselves during the tougher times are the ones we need to learn to overcome and change our attitude towards.
In a world where we are taught to be well-mannered to those around us because it’s so mandatory to be socially acceptable and politically correct, we forget to filter our inner thoughts to be kinder to ourselves. We forget that the things we say and think to ourselves and about ourselves have their own ramifications on our own mental health and wellbeing. That same vibrant love and attention we give to others when we connect with them should be the same when we are nourishing our minds with our own voices, and never anything less.
The kindness we emanate should always come from the genuine heart of how we feel about ourselves. It is not an innate skill rather, it is one of the hardest things to learn. Sometimes, we fear that being kinder to ourselves means that we are slacking off, or it feels that we are giving up on the things we are trying to achieve. Sometimes, we fear that being kinder to ourselves might mean that we are settling for less, that we are selling ourselves short of our true capacity and potential. Sometimes, the fear of not being great or successful is what drives us to be so cruelly harsh to ourselves, to keep pushing on and on and to work harder and harder because anything less could potentially mean settling for failure.
Learning to be kind to yourself is having to activate a switch in the language you use towards your inner self. You will begin to see and feel a difference by starting to change the way you speak to yourself and you’ll be surprised at how many negative and self-doubt thoughts cross your mind on a day to day basis. Negative self-talk and consistently telling yourself that you’re not good enough conditions your mind and body to believe that the things you are pursuing are always falling short of your exceeded expectations.
When you are feeling tired, it’s okay to give yourself time to rest. When you are in need of alone time to rest, recover and rejuvenate, it’s okay to do so in isolation and recalibrate your emotions and feelings. When you are feeling burnt out or exhausted, it’s okay to switch off and allow yourself inactivity. When you are having a bad day, it’s okay to remind yourself that it’s exactly that – just a bad day. When you’re feeling unmotivated or down or just not yourself, it’s okay to accept these feelings in order to understand where they’re stemming from. Learn to be kinder to yourself, because the thoughts you are feeding your mind is the water you are using to blossom your garden. Nurture yourself to grow a healthy mind, and your light will shine from within.